We seek and do that which makes us feel good, or better than before. Always searching for some peace or some purpose to give meaning to what we do. We hang out with friends and family, they make us feel good. We watch TV, movies and play games, they help us relax. Most of what we do relies upon the fact on how it makes us feel, good and sometimes not. We have all asked ourselves this question “Why do I keep doing this?” at some point or another through out our life. This question can pop up into our thoughts at any time. There are many reasons why this question does become apparent to our immediate and active conscious thoughts. One very simple answer is that you are doing and being that which you are not.
We develop our sense of being based on the examples, opinions and beliefs of those around us. From the time we started to be aware of how we are feeling and what causes those feelings, to even now, this moment reading this blog. Our sense of self is continually developing, expanding and adapting to every thing around us. We learn what makes us feel happy, excited and good, we learn what makes us feel sad, apathetic and bad. Mostly, we choose to do that which makes us feel good, though, at times, feeling good, makes us feel bad.
I am sure that I do not have to go into any descriptive examples of what I mean in the last sentence, but just to make sure, an analogy that many of us know.
~Going out with friends and having a great time dancing and drinking, letting go, just being yourself, no cares, no worries, no stress.~ “A good time, makes us feel good.”
~I am never going to EVER drink that much again!!~
I am sure most every one can understand how the good can turn into the bad.
Now, take a moment, and just think, what do I do, over and over again that makes me feel good, but can or does have a bad or negative impact on me?
Also, at this time, I think it’s best to point out that when we think about feeling good, It can be a variety of feelings, ranging from confidence, freedom, care-free, acceptance, being a part of and euphoria. Also with the feelings of bad, these can range from not being accepted, low confidence, hopelessness, sad, etc.
What is my point?
We do many things in our life, everyday, that make us feel good, or gives us a meaning for doing something that will in the end make us feel good, or gives us the perception of feeling good. Then there are also times that what we are doing, does not make us feel good, nor bad, but helps us to not think about the bad. A distraction from not feeling good.
I think that many of us spend most of our time, not realizing it, are distracting ourselves from not feeling good. Being neutral in life, just trying to fit in some where. We look for ways to find the good feelings, our purpose, our meaning. For many, we do not even know that we are searching for meaning and purpose, it’s an instinct. Not being aware, that by using distractions to implement our feelings of good, we are in essence not living with authenticity. We go out seeking any means that make us feel good, there are so many. But one that many forget or do not know exist, is our feeling good of self.
When we feel good about self, we do not need distractions from the feelings of bad. We are inspired, we are energetic, we are love. We are authentic to self and to others, we exude high vibrational energies that others can feel. We are hope, we are connection, we are energy.
We all have this feeling of good of self, we need to find and to believe……
The power within